Dating your spouce
Spend a few moments jotting down your greatest hits from your years together—from the biggies, like your wedding day, to the smaller memories, like the song you played over and over on a camping trip one year.
Even using something your spouse already owns, like their cologne/perfume or a favorite shirt can help them know you’ve put extra thought into this night.Maybe it's as involved as a weekend B&B trip, or maybe it's as simple as spending an afternoon playing tourist in your hometown—say, by checking out the new neighborhood sushi place or visiting a nearby historical site."We all know that waiting until the end of the night to have sex often means you fall asleep before you get to it," says Ian Kerner, a relationship and sex expert, and author."You can't feel love for someone else if you're feeling crappy about your own life," says Weiner-Davis. Related: 5 relationship warning signs couples should never ignore Dozens of studies have found that one of the best ways to bust a rut is by injecting some novelty into your usual routine.Find a free weekend this month, drop the typical Saturday chores-and-errands dance, and plan something that you'll love doing together.